Saturday, October 12, 2013

"Never Can Say Goodbye"

Saying good bye, or "adjourning" has always been particularly hard for me.  I think my struggles with leaving others or having others leave me are grounded in my particular childhood experiences.  Other than having to say a worldly goodbye to those who have died, and farewell to a marriage of 18 years, the hardest goodbye I have ever said was to my friends and co-workers in Head Start

I worked with Head Start for a little over 13 years.  I worked with basically the same group of managers for the entire time and leaving that group was bittersweet.  I wanted and needed to move on but leaving the familiarity of working together and our routines was very difficult.  I think that because we worked together so closely, were all very passionate about the program, endured several years of tough decisions and programmatic changes, and shared the experience of 2 of our team members dying,   leaving was extra hard.  I raised my kids with this group of women and men, sought their advice as a young married woman, learned how to be a professional, and learned how the real world of a non-profit works.  I don't think that I would be the woman I am today if not for this group of people and our shared experiences.  When I left we had a huge party and we all promised to keep in touch.  Sadly, life got very busy, I moved on, and we only see each other occasionally.  Although they are not in my daily life, they will forever hold a special place in my heart.  

Thanks for reading!

Monette

2 comments:

  1. You just summed up many of our experiences when we have to say goodbyes to people who become so much a part of our lives. There are good intentions to keep in touch, but life gets so hectic that making time is a luxury. Beautiful post :o)

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  2. Monette, I believe that when we work with a team of people who share the same passion, love, care, concern, and drive as we do we often look to them as part of our family. I understand the feeling of being bittersweet when you departed them. I know my time is coming where I am going to have to say good-bye with the team that I have been working with for over 6 years. I have gained so much from each and everyone of them but, as I progress towards my degree I must progress in my career as well. I strongly believe that I will continue to keep in touch with them. I love them as my own family.

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